Well I have to admit that things have been very rough for the past little bit of time. Getting back to the swing of things from Guatemala was very difficult. Not only the "going back to work" part, but dealing with the recovery; that we didn't have the things that we wanted to have.
My dread of coming back to work and having to tell everyone my experience was a little misguided. I forgot that the people at my workplace neither care nor are interested in me, generally speaking. It's not that I dislike them, or that they dislike me, more that they would rather not talk about it (or the hard things) and I didn't bring up the conversation. It's kind of strange, because there is a lady here at work that has had ectopic pregnancies, and I thought she would be more willing to talk about it, but I suppose people have their own pain, and that it's hard to get into it with someone else's too.
We decided to help ourselves, and we got another dog. I should say, that Anai wanted another dog. It was very emotional as a decision, because we went online to our local shelter website, and there was a dog there named Poppy. The name that we gave our baby that we lost to ectopic pregnancy... so it seemed like it was a sign. We went to go visit the dog named Poppy, but--in a strange twist--our dog, who loves all dogs, and people, decidedly did NOT love Poppy. They just didn't get along. But while we were there, our dog met another dog, appropriately named Clarice. And our dog thought that she was the greatest.
As you may have noticed, "Clarice's" head looks like it was taken and put on another dog's body. Rottweiler on the front and Hound on the back with spotted white legs. I think that's why she had such a silly name. We promptly renamed her "Navi" and she fits right in. Our dog loves her, they are very similar to one another. And having another kooky figure in the house has probably helped us out as well. I think our dog knew what we needed, and we didn't need a Poppy, we needed a weirdo like Navi to help us along.
But life keeps going, whether you want it to, or not.
Life has a way of pushing and pulling you in directions you didn't think you needed to go.
About a week ago, I made an impromptu call to the Calgary fertility clinic, which is about a three hour drive from our house. I had put in an application to be accepted last year in September. I thought they didn't have space, or they just didn't call. So I reached out to the office, and they said that they had tried to get a hold of me in April. Obviously, while I was in Guatemala.
Shocked, I asked if I was still able to go to the clinic. They said that I was, but I can only be on the wait list for a year before having to go back and try again. My first application was received September 12, 2014. My consultation would have to be sometime before September 12, 2015... I held my breath on the phone while the receptionist clicked away, hmm'ing and hawwww'ing about it... and she finally said "Does September 8th work for you?"
With excitement, nervousness, and shock, I said yes, of course, we will be there. I'll call in sick to work that day, whatever works, we will make it.
I told Anai about it, and wondered, was it too soon? Was it a good idea? Was it what we wanted. She was over the moon for me. It meant that we could move on with our fertility treatments, and so much faster than we thought. We had assumed, after coming home, that we would have to wait another year, maybe more, until the clinic had space for us. But to come back in July and have an appointment set up in September was a shock.
Anai has had a long number of medical doctor visits to try and sort out what was happening with not only her ectopic pregnancy, but also the miscarriage she suffered in July. She has had her regular period, and everything seems back to normal, but there are lots of tests to ensure that that is true. While she was in with the doctor, she asked for a referral to both the Calgary clinic, as well as the Saskatchewan clinic. Saskatchewan is a province over, but only about 4.5 hours drive away--similar to the 3 hour drive away it is to get to Calgary. So we thought we would maximize our chances of being able to go to a clinic.
I got the mail two days ago, and I saw a letter from the Saskatchewan clinic. I rushed it over to Anai to open, and she looked at it with shock. It said: "Your appointment is September 9th at 11am."
My appointment, 600km away is September 8th. Anai's is the next day, in another province,on September 9th. All of the issues with Guatemala, the emotional and physical problems, the miscarriage, the loss of Poppy, coming home, dealing with the knowledge that one day we would have to try again if we want to chase our dream... who cares about driving into two provinces in two days? Who cares about taking sick leave from work because it's too soon to ask for time off? Who cares that we might, if we have to, be receiving treatments at the same time as one another, 600km apart?
This isn't the craziest thing we have done. But life is giving us a push. Telling us to explore options we never thought of before. Telling us that we have to try again, that it's OK for us to try again. We can grieve and try again. We can still be ourselves, and try again.
If we can, we will try to get either: myself accepted into Saskatchewan, or Anai accepted into Calgary. But if it's not possible, we may just have to make it work, one province at a time.
Thanks to everyone who stuck with us, or is just joining us. We're finally headed in a good direction, and it's up. xxo